CONTROL your ANGER

 Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion

Understand Your Anger
Examine thoughts, as the memories of the causes and reasons for the anger to arise. Limit this examination to one source and cause at a time, and isolate it from the numerous other things

Expressing Anger
As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but no confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

Take a timeout
Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to ten. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.

When you are angry say nothing.
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything and allow others involved in the situation to do the same. If we speak in anger we will definitely aggravate the situation and quite likely hurt the feelings of others.

Use humor to release tension
Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

Do some physical exercises. When you are angry- your body is very tensed and tough. If you stretch your muscles it will relax your body, as you will spill out all your negative energy into action. Your brains will get more oxygen and it assists to clear your thoughts.

Don’t Over-talk It
Discussing your anger is a tricky thing. Talking about your anger with a trusted friend can be an effective strategy for dealing with anger … to a point. It can help you better understand your feelings, brainstorm problem-solving strategies. However, repeatedly discussing topics that make you angry will make you feel worse and increase stress hormones in your blood.

Don't hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.