|
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
Two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved.
One of the most common phenomenon nowadays is “friends with benefits” relations. While some people give an excuse to their sexual parades, others hide their Casual sex under the term of “friends with benefits”.
Whether it is online or in the physical world, there are a lot of people seeking and trying to establish "friends with benefits" arrangements.
FACTS
• 70% of either partner ended up getting their feelings hurt
• 91% of the person with hurt feelings wanted more from the relationship
• 6% had navigated to permanent
• 90% of FWB relationship ends because one person was insistent on making the relationship permanent and the other didn't want it beyond where it was
Why do people choose a
“friends with benefits” relationship
• You are busy and don't have the time or the desire to invest in a committed relationship.
• You're coming out of a breakup and need time to work through your emotions but still want to have sex.
• You have feelings for a friend and think that if you offer to have non-committal sex with them; your affections will be returned.
• You cannot be restricted with one person and need to have multiple sex relations.
• You don’t like prostitutes and need to have safe sex.
• FWB is often used to avoid the true feelings and vulnerability of real relationships.
BEWARE
In a “Friends with benefits” relationship, you might lose the friend and stick to the physical relation.
Friendship quality time vanishes because what predominates in the relation is physical desire at the expense of alking and sharing common interests.
MANIPULATION
• Some men use the brain and emotional approach on purpose in order to take the best out of their partner knowing that most “normal” women need to be sentimentally involved in order to have sex.
• Promises and future projection if present are only a sign of a manipulative approach.
RULES OF THE GAME
The thing about a sex buddy is that if you play right, no one gets hurts.
NEVER MISINTERPRET SEX WITH EMOTIONS
In this kind of relation, the sex act is completely dissociated from emotions. It was never there and most probably will never be.
NO SENTIMENTAL EXPECTATIONS
No matter how hard sex buddies try not to fall in love, there is always the possibility that one or both parties will want to turn it into a formal relationship.
PUT SOCIAL LIMITS
Never introduce your sex partner to your family, friends or social entourage. FWB is meant to be temporary; getting the partner involved in your life might lead to the creation of an emotional connection.
NO POST SEX
Post-sex cuddling is all about emotional bonding and intimacy, there should be no interest in that with a sex buddy.
NO JEALOUSY
FWB is not a boyfriend. His own date, girlfriend or partner should not provoke jealousy since this is not called cheating. From the start your relation is purely sexual.
SAFETY
Since a FWB might have many sex buddies, it is crucial to have safe protected sex. It is especially important to use condoms to prevent sexually transmitted infections.
NO PRESSURE
The most basic and essential principle to FWB is that you two aren’t dating or “official.” Bombarding them with text and Snapchats is bound to scare them away.
DON’T LET IT LAST
Remember you are only sex buddies satisfying your needs with an accomplice, instead of hiring a prostitute. It is purely physical. If this sex relation lasts too long, it might compromise the emotional and sexual relation with the official partner, husband or date since you will be fulfilling your needs elsewhere.
HABIT IS A SECOND NATURE.
Beware of getting used to your FWB. Beware: someone always falls in the end. So, keep your feelings in check.
KEEP THE BRAIN AWAY
Having discussions and long talks will lead to the creation of strong bonds. Your FWB is not your best friend. Remember sex is the only bond between you two and it should stay that way.
|
