REJECTION
Rejection has been, and will be, as normal a part of anyone’s life.
Even though we have experienced it many times, each rejection is a new wound.

To be able to succeed in all endeavors, one has to learn how to accept rejection, grow from setbacks in order to come back with more strength and passion than ever.

No matter if it happens in dating, in social settings, in sports, at our job or even in our committed relationships, it always hurts.

When we get rejected we blame ourselves, we just wonder where did it go wrong or even worth what did we do wrong?

The truth is that most of the times, we are simply not responsible; Rejection is just a fact that we can do nothing about and certainly didn’t do anything to provoke.

Trying to look at it in a positive way:
Rejection can at any time be a step backward that gives us a second chance to look back at many lost opportunities that we didn’t even bother to consider because we were busy to maintain something that didn’t deserve us from the start.

Even better, rejection is nothing but a new opportunity to grab a new chance, a better chance towards happiness.

REJECTION IN RELATIONSHIPS

Rejection comes as one of the most brutal strikes to the heart because it directs a straight blow to our ego.

• Happiness is a choice, not an outcome. You can choose to be happy regardless of external circumstances.
• You don’t need anyone’s approval in order to feel happy. The only person whose approval you need is your own.
• If you are not happy alone, you will never be happy in a relationship.

Research establishes that it is not only natural to experience severe mental agony as a result of rejection, but it is also as “real” as physical pain.
When we experience rejection, we experience pain. In a study involving fMRI scanners, researchers Eisenberger, Lieberman and Williams found that rejection triggers the same pathways in our brain as physical pain.

“Rejection teaches you how to reject.”
Jeanette Winterson

DEALING WITH REJECTION IN RELATIONSHIPS
Some persons use their moodiness as a tool of manipulation to control people around them.
They try to gain attention, influence, power or status and will not stop until either moodiness no longer confers these 'benefits' or they start to meet these needs in more mature ways.

BE CONSCIOUS OF DIFFERENCES
The first step to avoid unwarranted feelings of rejection is to acknowledge differences between people.
Each person in this world has a different reality. In any given situation, two people can never think or react in (exactly) the same way.
People will behave differently from how we expect them to behave.

AVOID PERSONALIZATION
It is important that we recognize that any rejection in general is largely unrelated to whether we are good enough for something (or someone) or not.
It only means that we have got to offer, and what is needed by someone (or something) are not the same.

REDUCTION IN EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCE
Shift our focus from the partner.
Using the pain of rejection to find other reasons to live is the only way out. Picking up an old and forgotten hobby, or connecting with like-minded people are possible options.
Being emotionally needy does not necessarily mean falling out of love with the partner.
Loving the partner and being unable to function without their emotional support is not the same thing at all. The first is healthy, while the second is not.

CHANGE YOUR OWN PERSPECTIVE
Have you heard the quote about being the best peach in the world and you run into someone who doesn’t like peaches?
We pre-judge, judge and sort people so they fit into our perception of reality but most of the time that is what happens when we get rejected.

REJECTION IS PROGRESSION,
NOT REGRESSION

LEARN FROM THE REJECTION
There’s always a reason behind each rejection. Sometimes it may be a monotonous idea, a mismatch of needs, bad presentation (of the idea), bad approach, incompatibility of values, misunderstanding, and so on.

If you can understand the reason behind the rejection, you can do things differently next time. This will be immensely helpful in your growth.